I am for marriage equality simply because it should not be anybody’s business what another person’s sexuality is.
The fear that people have that leads to laws restricting marriage equality is innately irrational and unfair. If this country is created for the people and by the people, then it should be exactly that.
I, for one, am tired of hearing about this debate and wish that this issue could be settled; laws should allow people to exercise their rights as people in a “free’ country so they may marry whomever they want.
The reasons for people not wanting same-sex couples to get married are completely idiotic and in some instances hateful. Such as the argument, “It’s against the bible in some way,” “It’s inhumane,” “It goes against the so-called laws of nature,” and many more ridiculous excuses.
The main thing I do not understand about these debates is why this, in the end, is a problem. No matter how many times it becomes evident that same-sex couples just want to live their lives in a peaceful way; there is still much debate about this topic. As children, we learn to share and treat everyone equally, so why does that suddenly change once you leave the playground?
Now, to a child, of course, these issues seem to be less important and not as complex. It speaks to a fact that we as human beings are not born into the malicious cycle of hate that the opponents of same-sex marriage would like people to believe in.
And to be quite frank, I find it sickening to think that people have learned to hold so much hatred and disdain in their hearts. This should not be allowed to go on.
But, in addition there is one reason as to why I support same-sex marriage, there really is one that takes the cake from the rest. Sexuality is personal, relationships are private, and either way it is not the business of outsiders or the government to become involved in someone else’s marriage.
This should not even be a debate—just like sexuality within a relationship: it does not concern anyone but the two people getting married. No one is destroying the “fabric of American family,” as some people would like to put it.
The amount of hatred that is given to this topic is absolutely ridiculous. I know this sounds very cliché, but I still believe it is true that we should all be able to put aside the things that make us different and embrace the things that make us the same.
This not only can be applied to marriage equality, but other issues that we, as a country, still have problems with, such as race and religion.
Underneath it all, we are all humans and we should all have the same rights and privileges that everyone else does—the right to be who we are, to love who we want, and to not feel guilty or to be oppressed for these things.
Lately, as I go throughout my day just asking my friends random questions about their personal lives, I have noticed that a lot of students here are either in or want to be in long distance relationships. I find this interesting, being a military brat, I have quite a lot of experience in long distance love. And though it breaks my heart to say these things, I must address them.
During my sophomore year of high school, I met a guy and formed an incredible friendship with him that turned into love. We were not exactly clear or sure of that love at the time, so I moved away and he moved on with his life.
However, we did keep in contact and three years later, we were still in love but college was starting. I came to Norfolk and he went to school in Frostburg, MD which is approximately 5 hours away. Being wise, I remained optimistic and hopeful about our relationship, but realistic at the same time. We girls these days cannot afford to be fools.
Anyway, I loved him with beyond everything I had but I felt that he was too young minded and negative to have the smallest amount of patience and faith in our situation. Not to mention, you know what they say about couples and college. He was going to be a freshman boy on a college campus full of loose girls, alcohol and God knows what else. He was going to have everything but me. I must have been crazy to even still be okay with the circumstances, but I was.
I guess what I am saying is long distance college relationships are what you make them. If you are like me and you value trust to its fullest extent, then staying faithful is not a problem. But if you feel as though you have not lived or experienced every type of girl/guy there is, cut your losses and be wild.
This is college. When we graduate and have to face Uncle Sam, the world and our landlords, we are going to wish we could still drive back to campus for some good old Sodexo and Village IV fun. For those who are in my situation, make the best of it. Do not let negativity cause you to lose a good thing. Misery loves company and those who want what you have will always steer you wrong if you let them.
It all boils down to loving the way you want to love, but you have to know yourself. If you cannot see yourself being a faithful partner, then do not attempt a long distance relationship. However, if you know you can be completely monogamous, then you trust as much as you can. Focus on what is important to you, be strong and enjoy the time you do have together.
Walk at a brisk pace when you pass them, but remain calm. Do not look them in the eye, speak to them, ask them about their day or even be friendly to them in any type of way. In other words, never talk to strangers. That was the number one rule of childhood.
When I was younger, I was taught to not associate with “outsiders” for my own safety and protection. We were all taught the catchy phrase “stranger danger” and how to react to people we do not know.
As kids, we were trained to panic when a “stranger” came our way—this meant scream at the top of our lungs and run in the other direction. I mean, rightfully so, there are a lot of dangerous people in this world, but this has only strengthened the negative connotation of the word stranger.
A stranger is simply a newcomer or an unaccounted member to a group or population. Basically, someone you have not seen or talked to before. Usually, when people think of strangers, they think of dangerous, psychotic, lunatic people from the “Wrong Turn” series of films. The fear of the unknown has played a major role in our interpretation of strangers.
But as I grew older, I realized that this was not always the case. I discovered that maybe we should face our fears and make peace with our childhood enemy of the “scary outsiders,” because strangers could offer more positivity and knowledge than we may think.
When I started college, I was nervous about the people I would be interacting with. I then realized that some of my fear derived from the fact that everyone I would meet would be unfamiliar to me; everyone would be a stranger.
However, when I started to establish myself as part of the VWC community and got to know the faculty and students, they were no longer strangers, but acquaintances and friends. I have had my fair share of interactions with strangers throughout my life, in which a majority had positive influences.
When I volunteered for various organizations in middle school and high school, I met many different people from all over the world. I learned so much about cultures, traditions, faith, love, happiness and family from my experiences.
For example, I remember spending the summer of my senior year volunteering in the infusion center of Sentara Hospital. I was interested in the medical field, and thought that it would be fun to give back to the community.
One day, I was prepping an elderly woman for blood work, when all of the sudden she asked if she could speak with me. She told me that she loved seeing young people giving back to the community and that I truly made a difference by volunteering my time to help others. She also described that she was thankful for what I was doing for her.
This so-called stranger’s comments changed how I volunteered and inspired me to go into humanitarian work in college. From that day forward, I learned that strangers are one of life’s simple pleasures and can cause impacts that can last a lifetime.
Strangers could be the next innovators of our time, creating technology and doing research that could impact our well-being and future. Or maybe they will be the reason, like me, someone picks a certain path of interest or career—they might even inspire someone to do something they never thought of before We should welcome in the strangers and should not be afraid of the unknown, but instead we should embrace it.
Now, I am not saying to completely put your guard down and teach your children to walk up to every person they do not know and introduce themselves. However, when it comes to meeting new people, I feel that you should not be afraid to just say “hi,” and maybe get to know them a little more before passing judgment on them.
Because it is true what they say, “First time strangers; second time friends.” I truly believe that when you meet someone new, it is like an added blessing to your life.
It is the most wonderful time of the year. And by that, I mean it is time for pumpkin spice to be everywhere. From traditional pumpkin pie and pumpkin spiced latte, to the crazier pumpkin bagels and pumpkin ravioli, we have finally gotten to that time of the year where we are greeted by the warm caress of that delicious fall scent every time we go inside.
And the best part is that it will never get old because it is only here for October and Thanksgiving. After that, it is all peppermint and pine needles until the spring—and who knows how long that will take to come with Virginia’s notoriously fickle climate.
I have caught quite a few people griping about how pumpkin spice is overrated and gross. Well, I am here to tell you that so is Axe Body Spray and cigarette smoke, but I still have to smell that everywhere I go and that lasts all year around. Cut us fall fanatics some slack. It is only two months out of the year—you will be okay.
It is like me saying, “Oh since I don’t eat pork, I shouldn’t have to smell it when I go into the dining hall.” No. It does not work like that. Toughen up, your highness. We all have to deal with things we do not like in life and for you pumpkin spice haters, I think you can sweat it out for a month or two. Or wear a nose plug.
In fact, not only do pumpkin spiced things smell and taste beyond amazing, but they are good for you as well. Pumpkin is a great source of beta-carotene, fiber and vitamins B, C and E. Is that not good enough for you? One of the key ingredients in pumpkin spice is cinnamon, often considered a supplement to increase one’s sex drive. I bet Starbucks is looking pretty good right now.
What is another great thing about this luxurious spice? It brings people together. Every year, between Halloween and Thanksgiving, I have my annual Fall Bash; a time when everyone can come together for food, movies and of course, homemade pumpkin hot chocolate. That is what most people look forward to. When you smell that pumpkin smell cooking in the oven or bubbling over the stove, you instantly want to fish out your winter scarves, grab a blanket and cuddle with a cute person next to a roaring fire. To me, that is fall in a chestnut shell, and I don’t really think you can argue with a picture all fall focused as that.
So, are you one of the few who hate the smell and taste and feel of fall? Then I have some tips for you. First, get over it. Your fluffed up summer feathers will be smoothed down in about six months and you can get back to smelling beach waves and playing in the sand or whatever it is you do. Second, just do not go to a coffee house or candle shop. You will smell pumpkin. It is pretty much Murphy’s law of fall. Lastly, turn a blind eye. Those of us that do not really care about spring or summer do not get annoyed at seeing Easter gifts in February or everyone eating Mexican food on Cinco de Mayo. It is just a part of the market-driven society we live in.
But if you are like me and you love anything pumpkin, then turn the other cheek to negative things people say. While you are at it, grab a mug of hot pumpkin cider and sip on the taste of fall that everyone else is missing out on since they are too busy complaining.
There seems to be a huge epidemic, growing bigger over the years, and I have finally had enough of it: all things pumpkin spice. Sure, it is fall and the smell of leaves and Ugg boots are in the air, but the over-abundance of pumpkin spice has gone too far.
This all started ten years ago at Starbucks when they first started making the soon-to-be despised (by me) drink. It was a huge hit and paved the way for the pandemic we are facing now.
McDonald’s and Dunkin Donuts have followed suit in making pumpkin-flavored coffee, but the spice is not just for coffee anymore. New pumpkin-flavored items include: donuts, M&M’s, cakes, beer, coffee creamer, Pop-Tarts, bagels and even Vodka. They say you cannot have too much of a good thing, but I respectfully disagree.
No, I don’t like pumpkin flavored anything, besides roasted pumpkin seeds. I have tried pumpkin flavored coffee and I am not a fan.
But I did not care when everyone else liked it or that people still enjoy it today. I only cared when it became the Gangnam Style of the fall season.
There are more (and better) things that can fill the air of fall than just a simple gourd and cinnamon mix. Why can’t there be s’mores flavored drinks? Roasted marshmallows, chocolate and graham crackers are the perfect fall concoction because they remind us of long nights, surrounding a campfire, looking up at the stars and embracing the crisp autumn air.
Honestly, I prefer the smell of a campfire and marshmallows roasting over a pumpkin.
We already have the classic hot chocolate; why not spice it up with s’mores instead of pumpkin? I am not saying we should go Yankee on everyone and make a flavor for every fall object; there are other things we can use to flavor our fall other than the overused, overdone pumpkin. Let’s get original, guys. I mean, why should the fall season be limited to only one “popular” scent/flavor/whatever else it is now?
And for all the crazy pumpkin fanatics out there, don’t hate on me because I disagree with you (this is not the Internet). I understand being obsessed and being a fanatic. We go crazy over little things and want to share them with our friends and family and strangers because we think everyone should love what we love.
While this is not entirely true, I still get it. But, again, I am not upset over the love of pumpkin, just the overuse of it.
I love the fall season as much as the next person, but there are more things to embrace and celebrate than a pumpkin flavored feast. This time of the year is meant to bring people together and I have never heard someone say, “You don’t like pumpkin spice? No holiday cheer for you.”
The season should not be limited to just one scent/flavor/whatever else it is. We all have different tastes and styles. I just think we should look at all the other things fall has to offer than just a pumpkin.
They day our parents graduated from high school, they were told to go to college and create the best lives for themselves as possible. In other words, “hasta la vista” and good luck with all that, kid. We, on the other hand, have so many more alternatives to life after grade school than we think.
Because it is seen as traditional to graduate and go to a four-year college in the fall, many young students are pressured into entering an institution which may or may not be right for them.
They either graduate and become an amazing example, graduate and end up in a dead end job that they would jump out of a window over, or they drop out and become your midnight “hook up” at the local McDonald’s.
We’re a smarter generation than we give ourselves credit for. Why are we not able to give ourselves credit for this awesome intelligence we have? Because we don’t use our resources the way we should.
The day we graduated from high school, after we were done partying, we should have sat down and thought about everything we could do to be successful in life besides going to college. Why? Well, to start, that could possibly save hundreds of families from risking their credit and going into debt over a student who wasn’t supposed to continue as a student in the first place.
Don’t get me wrong, this article is not about going through life without secondary education. This article is about thinking about your other options to either make sure you are exactly where you need to be, or help you figure out how to get to where you need to be.
So really think about why you are in school. Think about what you really want out of life and whether you are actually where you are supposed to be. The last thing the world needs is another generation full of diploma-holding burger flippers.