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He Said She Said

soulmate

Is it possible to find your soul-mate in college?

HE:
Do I want to find my soulmate and get married? Of course I do! Who would not want to get married? Ever since I was a little kid, I have dreamed of meeting that special someone, getting married, and starting a family. Do I want to get married today? Absolutely not!
I do not understand why so many college students are already settling down and making that big commitment. It is true that you can legally get married once you are 18, but just because you can get married does not mean that you should.
For multiple reasons, your college years are the worst time to get married. First of all, you are fresh out of high school and have just begun to distinguish the difference between actual love and a teenage crush.
Now that is not to say that you cannot meet your partner while you are in college. You might have already met that person in high school. You could meet your partner at any time in your life. You just need to make sure that you are at a mature and responsible age before you make it official.
Secondly, most college students are not fully independent. They are learning how to live on their own and many of them still depend on their parents for money. Do they really want to get married when they barely know how to take care of themselves? Why would they want to get married before they had a steady income?
Lastly, many college students, myself included, are in a long-distance relationship. My significant other is miles away. We only see each other during breaks and maybe an occasional visit. I would not feel as if I were actually married if I only saw my wife a few times a year. I would rather wait until we had both graduated from college before getting married. That way we could actually be together as a married couple.
So, then what is the youngest age at which someone should get married? It really depends on the individual, but I guess once you are done with college you are ready. It takes about a year to plan a wedding, which means you could get engaged as a senior if you wanted to.
I know a lot of college students are getting married today. I am not trying to criticize or put down any relationships. What you and your significant other decide to do is none of my business. But as for me, I am going to wait until after college to settle down.

-MICHAEL WILLSON

SHE:
I believe that finding your one true love is possible (not trying to sound like a Disney movie, but I believe it’s true). I also believe that you will experience the wave of emotions that
will come once you find your “other half”, and that you will experience a love that is romantic yet spontaneous, and unexpected, yet everlasting.
This concept I believe in is called having a soulmate. It is an ideal that has been transformed and shared over centuries among cultures. But to me, a soulmate is someone with whom you have a spiritual and unspoken connection, in which both parties understand that their meeting was never by chance but by fate.
This relationship with your other half will gradually manifest itself as becoming a physical and emotional one, in which the good feelings will outweigh the bad. I also feel that your soulmate will understand you better than anyone else, love the current “you” and also the “you” that you can become, and make your days brighter because you found each other.
For a long time, I have believed in the concept of soulmates. My view of this is that fate has allowed us to have the option of choosing whom to spend the rest of our lives with. I feel that it is up to us to choose to be in a long, committed relationship, a short one, a polygamous one, or even a life that just involves us singly. However, fate wants us to find our soulmates and
puts us in situations in which we can find each other, but the decision is ultimately ours.
I also believe that even though there are many people from whom we can choose to be our life partners, there is only one for each of us who is 99.9% (no one is perfect) our true match. And I, for one, hope to find that person.
My opinion on finding one’s soulmate at college is that anything is possible, but we must keep our eyes open so that we may be able to spot our potential soulmates.

-TAYLOR BOYD

He Said She Said

baby bottle

Who is the drunk babysitter in the relationship?

HE:
This is not a question about gender; don’t be fooled by that. The issue of having to babysit lies in the personality of the intoxicated person, and they are separated into categories.
First there is the Weeper, who bawls their eyes out in every situation. They could drop their hot dog on the ground and scream to the sky about how much they miss it with tears streaming down their face. The only thing to do is buy them another hot dog. Or four.
The Fighter and the Jerk go hand in hand. There was a Fighter/Jerk drunk near me once at a party and somebody double-dipped into a bowl of guacamole. Long story short, fists were thrown and the guac was ruined. It took us days to make that guacamole.
The Lover is the type of drunk that does not stop, no matter what, with the cheek kissing and butt-grabbing, even in front of your parents or your boss. The lover loves love, and the alcohol makes them love too much.
There is also the prolific Anti-Gravity Person (AGP). The alcohol in their system has shut down their motor cortex. They will drop things, fall over, run into walls, break the priceless vases which everybody has in their dorms and be a general danger to themselves and others.
Last but not least by any means is the Vommer. The Vommer is a hybrid of the Weeper, who will cry and apologize constantly, as well as projectile vomit everywhere. The Vommer will vomit on you, on your couch and most likely on any pet that doesn’t move fast enough. Your entire night will be spent gently but firmly thrusting bread down their throat.
Everybody has their category, and who babysits is beside the point. Just be wary of their personality before popping the cork.

SHE:
One does not typically think of a long night of heavy drinking when girls’ night out is brought up. So, why is it that when men get together for a night out they are more likely to drink and ultimately wind up being babysat by their significant other?
Granted, when a woman gets drunk she has to be taken care of by her boyfriend, but my overall point is that men get hammered more often.
I am sure there is some random statistic out there in data land that proves this. I guarantee you, if you really pay attention to who is helping whom upstairs to the bathroom after a party, it is probably the girlfriend that is helping her man.
Well, you might be wondering “what about those stereotypical drunk girls you see on the sidewalk being loud and belligerent toward everything?” Those girls do not count. Nine times out of 10 they are single, which is why they are able to be that drunk in the first place.
When in a relationship, it is the guy who usually gets drunk with his friends more often than his girlfriend. Do I think that gender roles and biases play a huge role in this? Yes. Am I going to get deeper into that topic right now? No. That is a topic for another time. However, I will say this: in a relationship, a female is bound to babysit her significant other more times out of the year.
Why is this? Because it is more socially acceptable and normal for a man to be intoxicated than it is for a female. This double standard is well understood by both sexes, females in relationships do not get drunk as often as their male counterparts for the sake of their image. If it were up to me, people in relationships would stay in and get drunk together.